Category: Community

  • Being Quaker – A Four Week Course for Newcomers

    Being Quaker – A Four Week Course for Newcomers

    The being Quaker Course is an opportunity to explore key themes within the Quaker Way. Each session will involve discussion and opportunities for questions as well as input from experienced Friends.ย  There is no cost and anyone is welcome.

    Dates: 22nd & 29th October, 5th & 12th November

    Time: 7:15-9:15pm

    Location: Streatham and Brixton Quaker Meeting (close to Streatham station.)

    Topics will include:

    • Quaker worship and ministry
    • Quaker history and future
    • How Quakers make decisions and structure themselves
    • The testimonies and living a Quaker life

    To book your place, email beingquaker@londonquakers.org.uk

    Please also make any newcomers in your own local meeting aware of this opportunity.

    Have you attended a Being Quaker course? If you would like to share your experience, we would love to hear from you! You can write to us at quill@quakersinlondon.org to share your experience with Friends across London.

  • Learning from our past as we build our future: when Six Weeks Meeting became LQPT

    Learning from our past as we build our future: when Six Weeks Meeting became LQPT

    At a time of significant change for our Area Meeting structures, the former Clerk of Six Weeks Meeting reflects on a previous period of transition: when Six Weeks Meeting became London Quakers Property Trust.

    Six Weeks Meeting (SWM) was registered as a company limited by guarantee in 2009, and the name was changed to London Quakers Property Trust (LQPT) in 2017. The trustees of SWM chose this legal framework because there was no other option at the time; registering it as a Charitable Incorporated Organisation wasnโ€™t possible until 2013. This was also the clear advice of our solicitors, Russell Cooke. 

    SWM had been set up by George Fox in 1671 and continued for over 300 years with no legal status. Britain Yearly Meeting (BYM), like many old-established religious bodies, had excepted charitable status and had no charity number. Because several religious bodies and charities misused their funds in the 1980s, the government rightly decided that all religious bodies and charities had to be legally established, registered, and under the eye of the Charity Commission, so BYM itself, all our Area Meetings, and SWM, had to regularise their status.  Setting up LQPT took years of work from trustees and staff – days in the Library checking all the historic deeds of every meeting house, many many meetings with solicitors, letters and phone calls to and from the Charity Commission, consultations with AMs, trustee meetings, and hours and hours drafting snd re-drafting minutes so that the new Trust was soundly based.  We felt that whatever changes might come to LQPT in the future, this gave it a solid foundation. 

    If now in 2026, we in London had decided to set up a CIO from scratch, we would have been asking for years of voluntary work and high solicitors fees. The Charity Commission was fairly slow in my time; it now has more work and fewer staff, so the process would be even slower. It will be for QiL and QiL trustees to discern whether changing the legal status to become a CIO is worth the effort at some time in the future, recognising that it will be a long-drawn-out process.

    Submitted by a Former Clerk to Six Weeks Meeting

  • Paddles Ahoy! A Report from London Link Group’s White Water Adventures

    Paddles Ahoy! A Report from London Link Group’s White Water Adventures

    Our Friend Rebecca Fricker shares a report of London Link Group’s recent trip to Lea Valley White Water Centre, where teamwork and overcoming fear was the order of the day.

    We are advised to Live Adventurously and that is what 13 Quaker affiliated teenagers, supported by 5 adult volunteers, did on a hot sunny day in the Lea Valley.

    After successfully passing a challenging swimming test, involving jumping into a fast flowing body of water to prove we could swim to safety, we were divided into 2 crafts to experience Whitewater Rafting โ€“ down the course built for the 2012 London Olympics.

    We learnt the importance of following instructions in order to prevent capsizing/falling out of a raft, how to work together as a team to move forward (and backwards), and how to overcome understandable fears and move out of our comfort zones. 

    We then hit the water again for Wipeout โ€“ cheerfully racing each other on an inflatable obstacle course, occasionally falling (or pushing someone else) in! While less scary, there was still a lot of laughter and screaming. Once weโ€™d tired ourselves out we enjoyed bobbing blissfully in the lake under the hot sun.

    For a full write up with pictures you can go to our website where you can also sign up to receive information about future events:ย https://londonlinkgroup.org.uk/

    Rebecca Fricker

    Clerk, London Link Group

    London Link Group is a volunteer-runย Quakerย group that organises events to bring Young Quakers aged 11-18 together. It aims to: help young Quakers to develop their friendships; explore Quaker values; empower young Quakers; put into practice our Quaker ideals to create an egalitarian, safe, inclusive, caring and positive atmosphere at every event. Find out more on their website.

  • British Quaker, American Friend: Reflections on BYM from across the Atlantic

    British Quaker, American Friend: Reflections on BYM from across the Atlantic

    Teran Chapis: British Quaker; American Friend, shares an extract of their report to Hartford Monthly Meeting in Connecticut, United States regarding Britain Yearly Meeting (BYM), which took place over four days in May.

    A recurring theme in conversations between Friends [at BYM] was our different understandings of God. Friends identified themselves as atheist or theist Quakers, and asked each other about their individual unique beliefs. One Friend from North Scotland said goodbye to me in the wee hours of Saturday morning by passionately declaring that I should minister the next day because: โ€œI am excited to hear the Lord speak through you.โ€ When he left the room I thought about it for a moment and said: โ€œHe doesnโ€™t believe in God.โ€ 

    At Meeting for Worship at Friends House the Sunday before Yearly Meeting, a Friend ministered that when she described a conference about God to a fellow Quaker, where a group of Friends organised all their thoughts about how they understand God as a concept, he asked her: โ€œWell does God understand you as a concept? Does God believe in you?โ€

    The following evening, on the walk home from a British Sign Language event, a Friend asked me โ€œwhy are you crying?โ€ 

    And I told them: โ€œI promise these are happy tears. Iโ€™ve just been thinking about how you said tonight that you donโ€™t believe in God because you donโ€™t believe that help will ever come. Because people like you are my proof of God. You are the help that came. You, my Friend, are my evidence for God.โ€ 

    I thought about the ministry that I had heard at Friends House the previous morning, and told them: โ€œMaybe asking the right question is more important than having the right answer. Maybe the question isnโ€™t whether or not we believe in God, but whether or not people see God in you.โ€ 

    And through a combination of American Sign Language, British Sign Language, lip reading, telepathy, and hugs, we cried and discussed this as we made the trek home through the dark and the rain of North London.

    It felt like a prank from the universe when my first Deaf friend after studying ASL uses British Sign Language. But Iโ€™m slowly relearning to sign with a different grammar structure and with lip patterns. When learning to sign BSL with fellow signing Friends in London, I learned that 1.) the request for a sign language interpreter at Britain Yearly Meeting this year was denied, and 2.) there arenโ€™t widely used official signs for the word โ€œQuakerโ€ or Quaker concepts. To fill in the gaps, we signed โ€œQuakerโ€ by shaking the BSL fingerspelling sign for Q, or sometimes, inspired by the name and profile picture of a Quaker groupchat, we use the BSL sign for geeseโ€ฆ meaning โ€œQuacker.โ€ 

    When I recounted the events of BYM to a lowercase f-friend, he said that once again, the strangest coincidences seem to happen to me. Years ago, before I ever stepped foot into a Quaker meeting, developing a disability inspired me to spend some forced sick time studying ASL. Little did I know what I was really preparing for.

    Inspired by conversations at Britain Yearly Meeting 2026, I am currently researching the history, experiences, and signs used by Deaf and signing Friends in Britain and the United States (including hearing, nonverbal Friends), and working on research proposals for research masterโ€™s/fellowships to conduct a formal study. If anyone is interested in connecting with me about this topic, or connecting with Deaf/signing Friends, donโ€™t hesitate to reach out to me at teranriley@gmail.com!โ€

    – Teran Chapis

    London Young Adult Quaker Meeting, Young Friends in Britain

    Inspired to attend Yearly Meeting? Yearly meeting now takes place over multiple sessions, with the most recent having taken place in Manchester last month. The last session for 2026 scheduled for 21 November in London. You can register to attend here: https://www.quaker.org.uk/ym/bookings. We hope to see you there!

  • Becoming Quakers in London: What do individual Friends need to do?

    Becoming Quakers in London: What do individual Friends need to do?

    London Development Group’s Legal Sub Group sets out what will be asked of Members and Attenders as we transition to Quakers in London – explaining the process and answering some FAQs.

    At the end of 2026, the seven current Area Meetings in London will merge with each other and with London Quakers Property Trust, to form Quakers in London (QiL).  After that, the 33 Local Meetings will continue to operate in much the same way as now, guided by Chapter 4 of Quaker Faith and Practice, so the Members and Attenders who worship at each of those meetings will continue to worship as they do now.  

    For Members, there are just a few things that each individual will need to do as their membership moves from their current area meeting to Quakers in London Area Meeting (QiL).  For Attenders, there is even less to do. 

    Membership 

    We hope that all Friends in membership of one of the seven area meetings in London (KWAM, LWAM, NETAM, NLAM, NWLAM, SELAM, SLAM) will become a Member of the new area meeting โ€“ QiL.   

    Each Member will have to formally consent to be a member of QiL. There will be a simple form to complete on line, with a backup paper version for those who need it. The QiL Membership Clerk and Friends serving on the London Development Group will be at JLAMs and other meetings to help and there will be a volunteer in most LMs to assist too. For anyone who doesnโ€™t use a computer and isnโ€™t able to get to MfW, we will arrange for someone to visit at home. 

    Attenders donโ€™t have to do anything: they will continue as Attenders at their LM as they are now. 

    QiL will be both an AM, which is a key part of Quaker right ordering, and a Charitable Company Limited by Guarantee which can legally own property, hold bank accounts and so on. QiL will take over London Quakers Property Trustโ€™s registration which is much easier than setting up a new charity.  

    Those in membership of a current AM will become a Member of the Charitable Company as well as a Member of the new AM in Quaker governance terms (once they have completed the form). Members agree to work according to the Articles of Association which are the charityโ€™s governing document: LQPTโ€™s Articles of Association are being amended and you can find a draft version and note of explanation here. Members will have the right to attend one or more meetings each year where the accounts of the Charity are presented and other formal processes take place: these will probably be held as part of a wider QiL Area Meeting in session. Members of the Charitable Company will also โ€“ theoretically – be liable for any debts if the Charitable Company closes, but this is limited by guarantee to be โ€˜up to one poundโ€™ so itโ€™s not something to worry about. 

    In future, those who come into membership will automatically become members of QiL area meeting both as a Quaker entity and as a Charitable Company. The form filling is needed only as Friends transfer from the old AMs to QiL. 

     Data Protection 

    Each current AM holds and processes certain personal data on its members as a โ€˜legitimate interestโ€™ for its core purposes. QiL will need a record of the name and basic details of all members in just the same way – by filling in the form members will ensure that the data held is accurate.  

    The form will ask if the member wants to receive Quill (a newsletter) and other notices: these will not be sent automatically –  the Member must agree to receive them.  

    At this stage, we are not going to set up a shared directory of members, but QiL may decide to do that at a later stage. Each person would have to give specific permission for their personal details to be included in the directory. 

    It is different for Attenders who must give explicit consent for any of their data to be held by the current AM or QiL. The form has space for that and we hope Attenders will choose to share their basic details. 

    Members or Attenders may give additional permission for specific data to be used for local address lists or newsletters or similar as they do currently.  

    In due course, QiL will develop a privacy policy, and until then we will use the draft LQPT privacy policy. 

    Financial contributions and Gift Aid  

    Contributions from individual Members and Attenders pay for activities in each LM, QiL meetings and events for adults and children, Friends to go on courses, and the salaries of a small staff team. They also contribute to the maintenance costs of meeting houses/hiring places for premises-free LMs to worship, and support the work of Quakers in Britain internationally as well as in England, Scotland and Wales. 

    Many Friends contribute through regular standing orders, with gift aid wherever possible.  

    We hope that Friends will give some money directly to Quakers in Britain in future rather than via their LM or QiL. That can be set up any time on the Quakers in Britain website. 

    And we hope too that Friends will contribute to QiL to help cover the costs of everything that we do in London.  

    For LMs that have opted for central finance management, individuals will need to cancel their old standing order and set up a new one for the new bank account.  Details will be sent about this later in the year. 

    Taxpayers who want QiL to claim back tax on donations, should fill in a new gift aid form. This is necessary whether the LM is managing its finances itself or managing them centrally through QiL because only QiL can claim back the gift aid.  

    This can be done at any time. 

    Q & A 

    Q: How do I get hold of one of these forms? 

    A: Online forms will be sent to all in membership of one of the seven current AMs by email (if we have an address) soon after JLAM on 12 September.  Hard copies will be available for those who need them.  The QiL Assistant Clerk Membership and members of the LDG will follow up during the autumn to help everyone fill them in. Please make our lives easy by filling them as soon as you can! 

    Q: I find it very confusing. What should I do? 

    A: Donโ€™t worry. We will explain it at JLAM and there will be someone in each LM who can help.      

    Q: Surely thereโ€™s an easier way to merge than this? 

    A: The London Development Group looked at the options and found that using LQPTโ€™s legal structure is by far the simplest and least expensive way of merging. JLAM agreed to this in October 2025. Minute JLAM 2025/19 which you can find in the full minutes of that meeting here records its intention to use the LQPT legal framework.  The summary of legal advice explains the reasons more fully and can be found here.

    Q: Wouldnโ€™t it be better to register as a Charitable Incorporated Organisation (CIO)?

    A: In some ways the newer model of a Charitable Incorporated Organisation (CIO) would be an easier fit, but it would have been a much slower and more expensive process to create a new charity and transfer ownership of all property than to take over and adapt the old LQPT registration. With a CIO, many of the same requirements would apply: it would be mandatory to get Friendsโ€™ permission to join, to keep a register of members etc. Many AMs are registered as CIOs and some as Charitable Companies.

    Q: Why does QiL have to register at all?

    A: Religious charities used to be โ€˜exemptโ€™ from registration, but the Charities Act 2011 is phasing out that option and a charity as large as QiL must be registered. (In fact the larger existing London AMs are currently registered). QiL must be registered as a charity to be able to hold a bank account, own property etc.

    Q: Can I be a member of QiL without being a member of the charitable company?  

    A: No – that wonโ€™t be possible. All those in membership will be members of the charitable company. At this moment of transfer, members of the old AMs need to complete forms and consent to being part of QiL, but it will happen automatically as new Friends come into membership in future. 

    Q: Are there any risks for me as an individual by becoming a member of a Charitable Company?

    A: Members of QiL will โ€“ theoretically โ€“ be liable for any debts if the charitable company closes, but this is limited by guarantee to be โ€˜up to one poundโ€™ so itโ€™s not something to worry about. There are no other liabilities of any kind for members. Trustees hold more responsibilities, but even they are protected in this type of charity as long as they act in good faith.

    Q: What will happen to my personal data? 

    A: A membership organisationโ€ฏlegally has a โ€˜legitimate interestโ€™ in holding the personal data of its membersโ€ฏand contacting them on matters linked toโ€ฏtheir membership. We are collecting data via the online form so that we know it is accurate and up to date. The historic membership records held by Area Meetings will form part of their archives, which will be transferred to Quakers in London.

    It is a requirement that all Area Meetings keep a register of members (QF&P 11.37), and this will apply to QiL. There is also a statutory requirement for any company โ€“ including a charitable company –  to maintain a register of members.โ€ฏ This up-to-date information will be gathered on the forms to be completed by all members this autumn.

    Q: How do I get onto the mailing list for the Quill newsletter and to receive notices of whatโ€™s going on? 

    A: Thereโ€™s a link on the Quakers in London website where Members or Attenders can sign up now to start receiving the newsletter. The form on membership will have a section where those who want to can sign up to receive Quill.  This needs separate agreement โ€“ itโ€™s not an automatic part of the โ€˜legitimate interestโ€™ of membership. 

    Q: How can I get hold of the contact details for Members of Quakers in London? 

    A:  You will have to ask a person to give you their details.  At least initially, there wonโ€™t be a shared list with contact details. Longer term, QiL might decide to create a Directory of Members and this would require explicit permission from each person whose details were included. 

    Official role email addresses for QiL clerks and various committees are available via the ‘connect’ page on the Quill here so that you can contact those role holders easily.

    Q: Can I see the governing documents for QiL? 

    A: The draft revised Articles of Association (which are the governing document for a charitable company) are available here with a covering note explaining them. Friends are invited to send any comments on them to the London Development Group by 20 September 2026. Formal approval must come from LQPTโ€™s Member Representatives (one from each AM) at a meeting in October 2026. You can also make comments at JLAM on 12 September or on a zoom on 21 September (details below).

    Q: What happens if I donโ€™t complete the form? 

    A: We hope everyone will complete the form.ย  Anyone who chooses not to, will not become a member of QiL. But they can, of course, continue to worship as an Attender. We will offer help to make sure that all those in membership of a current AM are able to complete the form.ย The London Development Group is trying to find a legal way to get a bit more time in 2027 for us to help Friends who are not able to complete forms by the end of the year to do so.

    Q: Will Attenders be members of the Charitable Company? 

    A: No. The Members are those in membership (not Attenders). 

    Q: How can I find out more?

    A: The draft Articles of Association and some background information are available on the Quill: https://friends.quakersinlondon.org/2026/08/12/quakers-in-london-articles-of-association/.

    The full legal advice and a summary which was taken to JLAM in October 2025 is available with JLAM papers here.

    Minute JLAM 2025/19 which agreed to use LQPTโ€™s registration as a Charitable Company can be found in the full minutes of the meeting of 4 October 2025 here.

    The London Development Group Legal Subgroup will introduce the Articles of Association and explain about form filling at JLAM on Saturday 12 September. There will be a zoom on Monday 21 September 7.30 โ€“ 8.30 for Friends who want to discuss the Articles further or who need help filling in their form. The zoom link is available on the event page here.

    Still have questions about this process? If you have further questions about what the transition will mean for you, please feel free to send them to admin@quakersinlondon.org.

  • Getting to know: Paul

    Getting to know: Paul

    Name: Paul Keenleyside

    Role: Co-Clerk of Joint London Area Meeting

    Local Meeting: Iโ€™ve been attending Quaker Meeting at Streatham & Brixton in South London since 2005.

    Can you tell us a bit about your Quaker journey? Like many, the journey to being a Friend was indirect and at times bumpy, but I was drawn consistently by the Quaker sense of each of our lives being a Testimony and the meaning that this then gives to each of our interactions with others and the world around us. This sense of meaning finding has been an important part of my wider life working in special schools and now helping support school leaders.

    What excites you about the QiL project? I feel that there is a huge potential in Quakers in London; developing connectivity and sense of purpose for us across this wonderful city and providing a new way to โ€˜talkโ€™ to other city-wide organisations (both faith-based and non faith-based). I also know that this journey is likely to be indirect and bumpy, but that may be the point!

    To get to know our community better, we are publishing a series of posts introducing Quakers in London including (but by no means limited to) staff members and role holders! If there is someone you would like to learn more about, or you would be interested in introducing yourself, please email us at quill@quakersinlondon.org.

  • Getting to Know: Daniel Clarke Flynn

    Getting to Know: Daniel Clarke Flynn

    We’re delighted to share the first of our “Getting to Know,” series from a Friend who is not a QiL roleholder. This series was designed to help us feel closer – and that includes our whole London community.

    Name: Daniel Clarke Flynn 

    Roles: co-editor of the Westminster Meeting monthly e-magazine The Parrot, committee member of the Quaker Universalist Group, associate tutor leading international Life Reflections workshops in Europe and Britain in person and online for Woodbrooke Learning and other Quaker groups, facilitator of the Thursday evening international Woodbrooke Worship/EMES Meeting for Worship, and member of the Britain Yearly Meeting Pastoral Care team. Since coming into membership abroad in March 2015, I have written over fifty articles and book reviews that have been published in The Friend, Friends Quarterly,โ€ฏAmong Friends,โ€ฏThe Universalist, and Western Friend.โ€ฏI am a former trustee, Quaker Action on Alcohol and Drugs and former convenor, Yearly Meeting Nominations Group 2025-2026. 

    Local Meeting: Westminster  

    Aside from Quakers, how do you like to spend your time? Learning more about who I am, why I am here, and what my calling is this day. 

    What parts of your service are you looking forward to? Being fully present and of service to others with my life experience, and learning from theirs as they might wish to share it. 

    What wouldย youย likeย people to know about you?ย I amย theย grandson of four 19th Century immigrants to the United States, two from Ireland and two from Germany, a 1939 native of San Francisco, California, citizen of Ireland, and resident of Belgium since January 2001.ย Iย earned a Juris Doctor degree from Georgetown University Law Center in Washington, D.C. in 1975,ย pursued a career in international corporate Human Resources before taking early retirement in 1997ย toย serve as a Cambridge Certified English language trainer for adults for two decades in the U.S. and Europe.ย Iย continue toย doย volunteer service for MSF (Mรฉdecins Sans Frontiรจres – Doctors Without Borders) and twoย other international associations seeking to make our world better for allย based on spiritual/moral principles/values.ย I doย translations into English from French, German, Italian, and Spanish.ย Myย wifeย and Iย mentor and support the African Great Lakes Region Consortium of eleven African started and run local charities in Burundi and South Kivu Province of the Democratic Republic ofย the Congo.ย https://www.copgla.org/ย ย ย 

    What is your favorite quote from QF&P? ยง1.01 โ€œOur diversity invites us both to speak what we know to be true in our lives and to learn from others. Friends are encouraged to listen to each other in humility and understanding, trusting in the Spirit that goes beyond our human effort and comprehension.โ€ Britain Yearly Meeting Quaker Faith & Practice, 5th Edition 

    Book recommendations:  

    English: Dr. Pim van Lommel (1943 – ____) https://pimvanlommel.nl/en/  

    Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of the Near-Death Experience ยฉ 2007 

    French: Oscar Lalo (1965 – ____), Dictionnaire amoureux de la mรฉditation. ยฉ ร‰ditions Plon, ยฉ ร‰ditions Rรฉcamier, des dรฉpartements de Place des ร‰diteurs, 2026. ISBN: 978-2-259-30654-6 https://www.oscarlalo.com/plon 

    German: Willigis Jรคger (1925 – 2020) Jenseits von Gott ยฉ 2012 Wege der Mystik, Holzkirchen. ISBN: 978-3-9810310-6-5 https://benediktushof.shop/de/jenseits-gott 

    Italian: Vito Mancuso (1962 – ____), La via della Bellezza ยฉ 2018 Garazanti S.r.l., Milano. ISBN: 978-88-11-67571-6 https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/42407175-la-via-della-bellezza 

    Spanish: Consuelo Martin (1940 – 2023), Vivir en Espรญritu y en Verdad ยฉ 2017 https://www.edicionesobelisco.com/10282-martin-consuelo 

  • Friends House Childrens Meeting: an update and upcoming vacancy

    Friends House Childrens Meeting: an update and upcoming vacancy

    This article is a contribution from our Friend Lucy Dodgson, who is the current Children and Young Peopleโ€™s worker at Friends House Meeting.

    Friends House Childrenโ€™s Meeting is an opportunity for young Quakers to gather, create, and engage with topics in the spirit of the Quaker Testimonies. Held in the Elizabeth Fry Suite of the lovely Friends House building, we welcome all participants aged 0-18 every (yes, every) Sunday of the month!

    As some Friends may know, our Childrenโ€™s Meeting had to go on a brief hiatus this past Winter, but I am happy to report that we are back up and running and we are thriving! Since February we have welcomed many young people through our doors, both London-based, and visiting Friends.

    We have had easter egg hunts, written stories, made friendship bracelets, painted, coloured and generally got very messy, all in the spirit of loving exploration. Suggestions from participants on themes and activities are key; we are building a meaningful community here, where everyone has a say.

    Fh Childrens Meeting Art Pink Butterfly 1
    Childrens Meeting Art – Pink Butterfly
    Fh Childrens Meeting Art Supplies
    Childrens Meeting – Art Supplies
    Fh Childrens Meeting Art Palm Trees
    Childrens Meeting Art – Palm Trees

    Some upcoming topics for the next couple of months include โ€œTake the adults for a walkโ€, โ€œA puppet showโ€ and making things with clay. We warmly welcome any who would like to join us, and you can contact cypworkerfh@gmail.com to be added to the mailing list, to be kept up to date on what activities are happening when.

    While I am delighted to tell everyone about our wonderful Childrenโ€™s Meeting, it is with a heavy heart that I also announce that I will be leaving London later this year and so there will soon be a vacancy for the (paid) role of Children and Young Peopleโ€™s worker at Friends House. The Meeting would very much like to hear from anyone interested in taking up the role. The job description is attached below, and in the meantime please do reach out to the Clerks at FHMClerk@outlook.com or me at cypworkerfh@gmail.com to enquire about the nature of the role or express interest. The rate is ยฃ20 per hour.

    The deadline for applications to this role is 23 August 2026 (although this may be extended as needed)

  • Getting to know: Christine

    Getting to know: Christine

    Name: Christine Downes-Grainger

    Neither of these last names is the patriarchal name I was registered with at birth. My husband was born as Downes and then adopted by his aunt who had married a Mr Grainger. In some ways I helped him understand his identity. He asked, as he developed contact with his birth parents, if we could change our family’s name to D-G. He felt he was a hybrid of two families.

    Role: NE Thames representative to the London Development Group (and NET AM clerk)

    Now a member of the QiL Arrangements Committee

    Local Meeting: Epping, which I first went to in 2010. I joined the Society at Middlesbrough Meeting (NE England) in the mid 70s. There were six years in the 2000s when I took no interest in Quaker matters as my husband had worked his way out of unwitting dependence on tranquillisers, antidepressants, sleeping pills and painkillers, plus numerous other prescriptions to offset the side effects of the first drugs.

    Aside from Quakers, how do you like to spend your time? I was accepted as a member early on, in spite of having very little time and energy to contribute to the meeting, and no money to support it. I applied partly because the identity of being a Quaker seemed very important to me, and because I felt the need for a supportive network. I knew that were I to be left on my own, I could go to a Quaker meeting in any town and be welcomed. This situation happened in 2009. I am glad of the many opportunities for learning and service that my local and area meeting has offered me. I enjoy a weekly U3a singing group and walks in nature.

    What aspects of your service are you most looking forward to? Other people finding they can support our structures in large and small helpful ways. I firmly believe we can achieve more harmonious outcomes if we work together. This takes time as we understand where we have made assumptions and are excluding certain people or favouring certain viewpoints. I want to enable the spirit of Quaker meetings to thrive among or alongside the regulations of the 21st Century.

    What’s your favourite quote from QF&P?

    Seek to know one another in the things which are eternal.

    In the 1970s version of A & Q (blue cover) this was the opening sentence of the second paragraph. It disappeared from the green trial of Questions and Counsel and I did not see it in the red version that was issued. I wrote to my LM clerk in dismay. He pointed out it had been retained but had been merged into Number 18. As a young mother when I first attended, the statement told me that I had found an organisation that accepted all the ages and stages of life and what we did not know about anything beyond it. That was anchoring.

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